How to Stop Comparing Yourself to your Friends

How can you stop comparing yourself to your friends?

We all have something that sticks out like a sore thumb, and shows to the world that you are different than everyone else. Bad skin? Not-so-perfect smile?

Or when it comes to the world of personal finance: you might make half the income of your peers. 

Your student loan payment may be more than your rent or mortgage each month.

Or you might drive a car that is 14 years old.

This reminds of the classic Christmas story of Rudolph the red nosed reindeer.

We all have our own version of a red nose.

In case you haven’t been blasting Christmas jams yet this season, here’s a quick refresher on the predicament Rudolph was in: all the other reindeer, Dasher and Dancer and Prancer and Vixen… Comet and Cupid and Donner and Blitzen, used to laugh and call Rudolph names, and they never let Rudolph play in any reindeer games.

Poor Rudolph.

Rudolph could not stop comparing himself to his friends.

Maybe a ‘reindeer game’ for you is seeing friends travel to Europe, get a promotion, or buy a home. It is easy to compare yourself and feel behind if those things aren’t happening in your life.

You’ve gotta love social media and the constant reminder of all the “reindeer games” that you can’t play in. It is easy then to feel like you’re not quite where you’d like to be.

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to your Friends

In the full story of Rudolph, he initially covers his red nose, and then runs away completely ashamed. Rudolph realizes that running away isn’t the answer.

You’ve gotta let your little red nose shine as bright as it possibly can.

Or in other words, realize that being different is ok, and you can use what seems to be your biggest weakness, as a strength.

In the story of Rudolph, after Rudolph returns from running away, on a foggy Christmas Eve night, Santa Claus comes to Rudolph and asks him, “Rudolph, with your nose so bright, won’t you guide my sleigh tonight?”

Whatever your red nose is, use that to be the light or path to your next destination.

Almost as if it is a red button, or red flag, that this is an area that you’d like to improve in.

For example, if you feel self-conscious about driving an older car, then that’s a signal that you have a major purchase coming up that you can plan to save for. Or if your student loans feel like they are holding you back, then that is a sign that becoming debt-free is important to you.

Don’t ignore those gut feelings.

Let your red nose shine. Stop comparing yourself to your friends.

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Love Carly

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