I found news that I have a minor health issue and need surgery! More on that in another post… we have all been at the receiving end of bad news at some point or another. So, how can you deal with a minor or major setback?
Here are four quick tips on how to deal with bad news.
1. Control the Controllables
There are certain things that are simply 100% out of your control, like the weather. If a tornado passes through your town there is nothing you can do to stop it from coming. Sometimes bad things happen and it is not your fault! So with bad news handle it by focusing your time and energy on the controllables, or what you can control. Your behavior, response, or attitude is always in your control.
2. Expect the Unexpected
Like Forrest Gump said, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.” No one visions having health issues, but things happen when you least expect them. It is easier to process bad news when you start expecting the unexpected. Gear up for the unexpected by always having insurances to cover your bases: car, health, life, and disability. Also save for life’s unknowns by having 3-12 months of living expenses saved for a rainy day.
3. Tweak Your Plans
I used to have die-hard firm goals. I LOVE writing my plans and goals down, but…. sometimes when bad news strikes you have to adjust your goals, expectations, and plans. I now think of goals as targets where you might not hit the bullseye, but it’s the direction you are heading. There are a lot of pit stops and delays that happen along the way as you pursue your dreams.
4. Happy Times are Ahead
No matter how bad something is, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Just keeping going and moving forward; good times are just around the corner.
If you have bad news deal with it by controlling the controllables, expect the unexpected, tweak your plans, and remember that happy times are ahead.
P.S. Things happen. If you know someone dealing with a life change or struggling to process bad news, then share this with them.